Is it normal that many people are happy when their opponent suffers?

Don't you play chess to learn something and have fun?
Also to compete with each other is a way both help each other to try harder giving their best and learn more and have fun.
Learning is fun, challenging each other is fun, playing well is satisfying, and winning creates satisfaction, pride and a feeling of strength and progress.
There is one small area of joy that surprises me - The joy of see a person suffering:
If you have made several terrible mistakes in a Bullet Game and finally you are completely helpless after the last devastating move. And your time is also just about to run out...
Why do many people immediately ad you then more time?
The only reason I can see is a saddistic one, to see the opponent suffer longer.
You can probably list many other reasons too.
But honestly, how often do you enjoy chess or other games, just because your opponent is suffering?
Is this normal, or the result of an aberration in why we compete with each other?
Are they effects of our daily competition that became totally normal in so many other areas of life?
Has the average value system of society changed?
Did we reach the stage that it is all about dominating?
Did for many people became cooperations boring? - Just to measure themselves against each other, to learning from each other and having fun together?
Is it more about the feeling of having power?
Let's not lose sight of the goal. To be content and give your life meaning.
If this succeeds without anyone else having to suffer, then we are contributing something to world peace.
Maybe I'm thinking too far into others adding me time in bullet games... or maybe I'm not.

I sometimes do that when there is a beautiful mate and I don't want to win on time. But not to see the opponent suffering.

I fail to see how exactly is getting more time supposed to offend or even harm you. If you want to play on, play on. If you don't want to, just resign - and no matter how much extra time you get, your opponent cannot prevent it. If you feel playing on makes you suffer, you can stop the suffering by one or two mouse clicks, it's as easy as that.

I completely agree with your point. This is why I regularly apologize in chat to my opponents when I win by flaging or by a lucky move. I have to do this because the result for me doesn't matter, but I'm a die-hard who wants to reach the limits of my abilities. If people accept my apology because of my gaming philosophy, that will forgive half the fault. For me, chess is a game that I play for pleasure, and seeing people sad because of a result or a game also makes me sad. as soon as I feel that someone really needs to be motivated, I motivate them. winning or losing means nothing to me, except in a team match. where it means a few things to others. but I always try to follow through on my ideas, to test my speed skills. just for my fun. so when I lose, I'm happy, someone managed to take advantage of my mistakes, my weaknesses and that person will always deserve the congratulations.

I give extra time because people sit there and let the time run out instead of resigning. Resign and leave with dignity, or don't and let me laugh at you :)

Well, if Darth Vader were a chessplayer, here's what he'd do to his opponents:

youtu.be/UYZoxY3sawE?si=57Y7fJ7A5VRDA0g7

There is nothing more fun than the sweet thrill of victory and utter domination of your opponent

Sadistic.

When you win, you feel happy.
When your opponent win, your opponent feels happy.
So it's balanced game.

Click your name, preferences, chess clock, give more time=> never

"I like to make them squirm" - "I like the moment when I break the Man's ego" - Bobby Fischer. - :]